I teach mindfulness to all my clients at some point in our work together. ALL of them. Why? Because without mindfulness, they will fail to achieve their goals. I don’t always call it mindfulness. Sometimes I call it noticing or paying attention. I don’t teach meditation. Meditation is useful for some of my clients. But …
My clients often get in their own way by interpreting a desire to be “true to themselves” or maintain their “integrity” in ways that prevent them from making the changes in their lives that they want to make. I help them with a few cognitive tricks to loosen that attachment and then things start to …
Notice the Good Stuff If you don’t notice the good stuff and savour it, your brain will convince you that the world is awful. Your brain is primed to notice the bad stuff. Because if we don’t notice danger, we can’t respond to it. So evolution made us 4-8 times more responsive to stimulus that …
Emotionally sensitive people often try to adapt themselves to other people’s comfort level. It can be challenging to be around people who are made uncomfortable by our choices. In order to avoid that discomfort, it is tempting to adapt oneself to other people’s comfort levels. But this is not always wise. Sometimes, we need to …
Have you ever been told you are too much, too intense, or too sensitive? Usually this comes with an equal dose of accusations of being not rational enough, not sensible enough, or not serious enough. The truth is that whatever that thing you are “too much” of is probably your greatest asset. It may not …
Many exceptionally gifted children have trouble sleeping at night because their minds do not shut off enough for sleep to come. D.V. Lovecky, “Hidden gifted learner: The exceptionally gifted child” Parents of gifted kids often realize in retrospect that the sleep challenges their kids faced as infants and toddlers were the earliest signs of their …